When you make a relationship official with someone, you can only hope that they will be honest and true to you, no matter what hardships come your way. But we are all human, and humans keep secrets from one another. Unfortunately for these people, their partners' secrets ended up being unforgivable lies that ruined everything:
1. Town Clown
My late husband was a clown, loved clowns, and went to clown gatherings. I played along and smiled and laughed and thought he was eccentric. He was the thing I loved most—but the clown thing was getting old. We had been together for 10 years before getting married and as we were beginning to plan our wedding, he seriously suggested that we have a zombie clown-themed wedding. I've never been so horrified.
Absolutely not, that was where the clown stuff needed to not overlap into my life. After a short time, we were able to come to an agreement on the theme. Unfortunately, about three months after we married, he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and passed within six weeks. While he was sick and in hospice, I hired an artist friend to paint a portrait of my husband in his clown makeup and the painting arrived the evening before he passed and he got to see it. I’d do anything to have my clown back now.
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2. Totally Guiltless
I came home from work and she was upstairs. I yelled for her and she said she was on the phone talking to her mom, and then she closed the bathroom door so I couldn't hear her anymore. At the time, it was as if someone invisible was standing behind me, whispering "she's lying." It was 2002 and we had a landline with cordless phones and a base station.
I walked into the room with the base station, then hit mute and turned on the speaker. At that moment, my worst fears were confirmed. I heard her talking to a guy and I could tell from the conversation that they had been intimate for a while. They were talking about when I would be working next. I didn't say anything; I just talked to a lawyer and filed for divorce. When I told her I knew and had already sought a lawyer, she started dating the other guy.
3. There’s A Bee?!
He is terrified of bees/wasps. They are all "bees" to him. Completely terrified. Just the word "bee" will get him to start nervously looking around. If he was driving the car and a bee got in the window, I'd be afraid for my safety because there is a solid chance he'd accidentally crash. It's honestly a huge problem, and it scares me. He is very embarrassed about his fear though, he knows it's irrational. He can't seem to help it.
So, I have developed a sixth sense about the presence of bees. If we're outside and I see one buzzing around, I'll make sure I either stand in his way so he can't see it, or I'll make an excuse for him to go inside. I've found wasp's nests in and around our house, and I take them out while he's at work and then never say a word about it.
If a wasp comes around and he sees it, he'll run away, but then I'll hunt it down and kill it so when he comes back out, he can have the peace of mind of seeing its corpse (from a distance). He doesn't know that I've been on 24/7 bee patrol for him for the past three years. I'm afraid he'd feel humiliated if he knew, and maybe even get depressed about it. But I don't mind. They're just wasps and honeybees.
4. Tangled In A Web Of Lies
It was June 2018 when the Spider-Man: Into The Spider-Verse trailer came out. I talked to my girlfriend about it and we agreed to go see it when it came out on December 14th. Well, in the proceeding months, we started to drift apart. She was calling and texting me less often, and our intimacy went down the drain. In hindsight, that should have been my biggest clue.
Late November rolled around and I saw on her Snapchat story that she was at a Walmart. She was wearing a leather jacket that was clearly a men's jacket since it was literally two sizes too big for her. For reference, I wore a size medium and this jacket looked like a large or extra-large. Ignoring another red flag, the 14th of December rolled around and I was excited to see the movie.
I had just been fired from my job so I needed a distraction. Her response struck me like a dagger to the heart. She responded that she had already seen it. Cue my confusion and questions about who she went with and why I wasn’t invited. She said she went with a friend from work and didn’t think about inviting me. I knew at that moment she was cheating but I didn’t want to believe it.
A week or so later, my best friend got back from air force school in Texas and we went out for dinner. I texted her to see if she wanted to join us but her response started with, “You’re going to hate me…” and I knew it was a breakup text. I stayed out with my friend and met up with her three days later for the closure conversation.
5. Can’t Sleep, Won’t Sleep
My girlfriend snores. Been with her 19 years and she snores EVERY night. Mostly I can get to sleep, and I sleep through it, but I KNOW I am not getting great sleep. I've asked her to see if we can do something about it, even suggested we do didgeridoo lessons together (the breathing technique does wonders for snoring and why not learn a weird instrument?).
She's never really bothered. Her snoring can manifest as sleep apnea, which besides just not being good, is a contributor to anxiety (which she has) so it'd be good for her too. So, we've recently moved. Two nights ago, the next-door neighbor’s dog was barking in the middle of the night and kept her up for an hour or two.
She kept mentioning it all day and kept telling me how tired she was. I gave some perfunctory sympathy but no more. If she'd known how I really felt, she'd be furious. Secretly, it was all I could do to not say "Welcome to EVERY NIGHT in my life."
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6. Driveway Deception
I found out because he didn’t come home after a night out with the boys. I woke up at 4 am and panicked, thinking something horrible happened. I tried to call him but his phone went straight to voicemail, and his friends told me he had left hours ago. I called hospitals and police stations thinking the worst. I even called his parents.
They lived in North Carolina and I woke them up to say their son was missing. I decided to drive around to where the boy’s night had been. One of my friends worked at one of the locations they went to and her car was still outside. My gut told me to drive by her house and I was horrified at what I saw—there his car was, still in her driveway. I furiously banged on the door and he answered.
I went home and called his parents back to let them know he wasn't hurt just cheating on me. We had been together for five years and I felt blindsided. The “friend” he was with had been telling me about this new guy who was texting her and sending her flowers. I had no idea it was my boyfriend the whole time. I cut them both off and never looked back.
7. Read You Like A Book
I knew he was going to propose. The man is so easy to read, he’s my open book! I love that about him, he wears all his emotions on his face. He’ll plan a trip for my birthday months in advance but then be so excited and proud about surprising me that he has to tell me straight away or make me guess where we’re going.
He’s not so cracking at surprises, so he’s always SO proud of himself that he surprised me that one time, and that I had no idea! Except I did...I heard him talking to his grandad about the ring and saw the heart-shaped lump in his pocket, plus he’d been talking about marriage all the time thinking he was being sly.
I’ll take it to the grave, it honestly makes him so happy, and he’d be so disappointed with himself if he thought he’d given it away. God, I love that man.
8. Cheque Please
We had been dating for eight months. One night, while we were out to dinner, she got a phone call. Apparently, her fiancé had just been in a terrible motorcycle accident and he hadn’t survived the ambulance journey. This was devastating news and when she told me, I was shocked. At the time, I was in college, so my schedule was chaotic and I guess that gave her gave free time to be sneaky with another guy. After her confession, I got the bill, made sure she called an Uber, and never spoke to her again.
9. Oh Deer
My wife has a beautiful heart. I jokingly call her a Disney princess because any animal that she comes across she has to talk to and greet. She has cried by seeing a dead raccoon on the side of the road before. At the time, I was working day shift and she was working a swing shift. I had a busy day, but I saw she sent me some pictures of a young doe that was eating in our front yard.
She seemed thrilled. I came home—and my blood ran cold. I saw the same deer...dead. On my darn porch. I felt like I started to hear “the first 48” theme playing as I realized I have six hours to get rid of this thing before my wife gets home and her world is shattered. I call my local city authorities thinking they wouldn’t want a dead animal in the middle of town.
Turns out, they couldn’t care less. I called some local raptor shelters to see if they could take a state donation, but it turns out the dead deer business is booming and they didn’t have a need for donations at this time, especially in the next 6 hours. Frustrated, I call my dad to vent and get advice on what to do. His response is only a, “Hold on bud, I’ll be there in 15 minutes.”
I go back inside to take care of the dogs and within the next 15 minutes, I see my dad back his huge truck into my back yard. He has the tailgate down and is knocking on my door with a pair of nitrile gloves on and another pair in hand for me. It was starting to get dark out, but we had that thing loaded up and found a special place to, uh, “dispose” of it.
We made it back with 20 minutes to spare before my wife got home. I haven’t told my wife because I think it would either break her heart, or creep her out at how efficiently my dad can dump a body. Anyway, wifey thinks her deer friend is alive and well, and totally not at the bottom of a ravine.
10. Not The First, Definitely The Last
This isn’t the first time I’ve been cheated on, but I thought I was going to marry him and I never saw it coming. It’s still fresh because it happened last weekend. When we first started dating, I remember a pack of protections being in his nightstand. We had gotten tested together and our relationship was supposed to be monogamous, so I forgot about them.
Last weekend, I had a weird feeling. I checked the nightstand and the pack was gone. Something led me to the closet and my jaw dropped when I looked inside. I found the overnight bag he used to bring to my place whenever he stayed the night. I thought to myself, he hasn’t used that in a while. When I opened it, there were dirty clothes, condom wrappers, and all sorts of intimate goodies placed in individual bags.
My boyfriend told me he didn’t like doing freaky stuff, so when I saw what was inside the bag, I knew he had been unfaithful. This prompted a full search and I found a secret play dresser full of role play costumes, lingeries, and devices that I had to Google! I confronted him about it and he denied it at first, but he eventually admitted the truth. He had no intention of telling me.
11. The Perfect Gift
One year for Christmas, she was trying to surprise me with something, but I hate surprises. I was out of a job at the time and didn't want anything extreme because I knew I couldn't return the favor. I told myself I wouldn't snoop, just ask a few questions and express that I didn't want anything big because we’re poor.
She decided to try and casually ask me if I was still interested in a concert for my favorite band, and I immediately knew. Her face gave it away. I knew she got tickets, but it was more. She got us meet and greet tickets, and I found out a few days later after her face kept giving it away. Christmas came and I was right. But I didn't need to act, I was really happy.
It was an amazing gift, and we had an amazing time. She was so proud of herself for pulling it off without telling me. I'll never tell her I knew, just because she was so happy.
12. A Picture Says A Thousand Words
When I started dating my ex, he told me he was divorced. I met his friends and everyone told me the same messy story. One night, we were out dancing and one of his wife’s friends saw us and sent her a picture. She sent it to him while we were still out and I promptly ended things. I will never forget the look on his face after opening that text.
I wanted nothing to do with him and carried on. The best part was when I ran into his wife at the same club a few months later. The encounter completely took me by surprise. She held no anger towards me, and she was actually an amazing woman! Though, she is still married to him. We decided to send a picture of us together, just to make sure he knew how low on the totem pole he sat.
13. Beads Buddy
I’m from south Louisiana and my dad is in a Mardi Gras Crew. Every year he’s on a float throwing beads. My husband has never been to Mardi Gras so his first time he was so excited, and it was at my dad’s parade. Normally people on the floats throw the “good beads” to kids or women that will flash them. But I had a genius plan. I told my husband that if you yell “throw me something mister!” loud enough the people on the float will give you the “good beads.”
I told my dad and he told his float buddies, when their float came around my husband was screaming like a banshee “THROW ME SOMETHING MISTER!” My dad and his friend pelted my husband with their best beads. When we were leaving the parade my husband was flexing all his nice new beads and thinks Mardi Gras is the best thing ever.
Didn’t have the heart to tell him that I told my dad to do that. He just thinks that because he was so enthusiastic, he got all the good stuff.
14. A Christmas Gaslight
I decided I would tell my partner I wanted to break up while I was at my parents' house for Christmas. At that point in our relationship, he was a workaholic and super distant. For the past two years, it felt like nothing I said or did even mattered to him. I tried to talk about how unhappy I was but it just didn’t phase him.
The last conversation I tried to have with him involved him interrupting me with a giggle fit because he "started thinking about how funny and cute a basket full of kittens would be." I didn’t think he would even blink reading my message about separation but he actually told me he'd like for us to work on our relationship.
He hadn’t booked off anytime for Christmas so I was alone. I felt terrible that I had left my parents. When I was opening presents with them on FaceTime, his iPad notifications were going off loudly in the background. I went to turn down the volume and I was shocked to see the messages on the screen. They were all from one of his old co-workers and something felt off.
I opened up their chat and read the whole thing. Turns out, he'd been planning to cheat for months while I was away. Besides her, there were two other co-workers he was talking to flirtatiously, one of which had children closer to his age. I confronted him and he lied. He also tried to erase his text messages on his phone, not realizing that they don't get erased on the iPad regardless.
15. Monsters-In-Law
I hate visiting his family, or when they come to visit. I hate it so freaking much. I know that it doesn't seem like that big of a deal, but he loves his family, and they come up here a lot. When we go to visit for holidays, I just want to scream. I often will make up work excuses to not do things when they visit, but when we visit, I have no escape.
His father is a complete jerk, who has never accepted the fact that his son is marrying a man and treats me like a woman. My fiancé comes from a very traditional family. I get left behind with his sister and mother and his brother's wives/girlfriends all the time. I'm supposed to do Black Friday shopping with them. I'm supposed to wrap gifts with them. I'm so bad at wrapping gifts.
At holidays, I get relegated to all the "womanly" tasks. I'm left to do the cooking or expected to bring something already made. I'm expected to gossip with them. But I can't cook. I CAN'T COOK—like at all. His mom treats me the same way. My fiancé doesn't notice, and I could never tell him that I freaking hate his parents.
I'm going to be real here and forgive all the generalizations and assigning of gender roles, but his family depends on them, so for people who survive on maintaining gender roles: I'M NOT EVEN THAT GAY. I don't have a lisp, I've never cared about dressing well, and I don't mince. No, I don't hunt, no, I don't eat meat, yes, I have liberal-leaning opinions.
But for goodness sake, I'm a professional carpenter. Yes, I build scenery for theatre, but dang it, I get paid to weld on a daily basis. I have more carpentry experience than three generations of his family combined. I come home every day and I'm covered in sawdust and dirt. Forgive my masculinity assertion, but seriously. I'm tired of his family lumping me in with the hens just 'cause I'm gay.
16. Front Row Audience
I found out due to technology. It unfolded in front of me. She was on her phone, and I was logged in on her desktop. She had two monitors and Facebook was open on one of them. I knew we had been having some trouble but saw her asking a friend if she could stay with them indefinitely. Afterward, I found her chat with another friend of hers about how she was planning on getting papers for a divorce.
17. We Were On A Break
About three and a half years ago, I thought my then-on-and-off boyfriend of five years and I were going to break up. In that time, I met up with my married ex-boyfriend who I thought was getting divorced (he'd just learned his wife cheated on him) and just so happened to hook up in his car. The ex later admitted that he'd planned it—I naively thought we were just going out for drinks and to chat, well, maybe fool around a bit, but I wasn't planning to hook up with him.
It happened anyway, but I didn't feel as bad as I could because I thought my boyfriend and I would be breaking up soon anyway. Since I thought my on-and-off-again boyfriend and I were breaking up, I told a bunch of people I banged my ex. But then, married ex-boyfriend conveniently decided that secretly screwing me in his car was enough revenge and he didn't need that divorce after all, and soon stopped talking to me again. But that was just the start of the nightmare.
After I realized the ex wasn't leaving wifeypoo after all, I became TERRIFIED that my boyfriend would find out I hooked up with my ex. Suddenly, staying with him became all-important. A couple years later, formerly on-and-off-boyfriend and I got married...Most of the wedding party (both his friends and mine) knew I'd cheated years before, but no one said anything to my husband.
I worry myself sick that he'll find out. Some of my friends have said that it was years ago and that they think my husband wouldn't be that upset if he found out now, but I think the fatal combo of (1) the ex in question (it's a guy I've always been borderline obsessed with), (2) that I kept the secret for so long and (3) that so many people know would throw my husband over the edge. I assume that if he ever finds out, the marriage is over...but I suspect that many people can't keep a secret forever.
Sooner or later, someone's going to say something, it's just a question of when. And the darkest secret of all? In hopes it'll entice my husband into sticking around, I cook him amazing meals and get intimate whenever he wants to (including catering to any kinky whim, no matter how not into it I am). He thinks I'm just a good wife...I'm actually just waiting for him to find out and get ready to dump me.
18. Spotlight Friendship
We were at a party together and she said she wasn't feeling well. My friend was leaving early because he had to work in the morning, so he offered to drive her home. Innocent. We were all friends, and we helped each other out. Still, I had a weird feeling in my gut, so when I left the party, I made a quick stop at her house.
As I drove down her street, I saw my friend’s car parked in front of her house. I turned my lights off and slowly drove closer. When I was parallel to his car, I blasted my high beams—at that moment, I discovered their disgusting secret. There they were, totally going for it. They pulled away from a kiss when they saw me. I pulled up to the side of his car and we both rolled down our windows.
I asked how everyone was feeling and drove home single.
19. Just A Friend With Benefits
Around a week after I met my current SO, I got a message from my old on-and-off friend with benefits: “Wanna grab a quick drink?” I knew what he really meant (“dtf?”) and I wasn't sure whether I was up for that. At this time, my current SO and I hadn't known each other that long and had only been on one or two dates.
We weren't exclusive, hadn't done any of the fooling around. I also wasn't looking for anything serious—in the autumn, I would be moving out of the country; I didn't really want to get too attached, and I saw our relationship pretty much as a fun summer fling. When we weren't hooking up, my FWB and I are fairly good friends.
I convinced myself there was nothing wrong in going, because I could just catch up with him and leave it at that. What's the harm in that? I knew I was fooling myself—but I didn't know how much I'd regret it. When we met up, he (my FWB) noticed I was a bit more reserved than usual, and I ended up telling him I was kind of dating someone. That's cool, he says, no pressure; we'll just have a drink and a chat, and then go our own separate ways.
Needless to say, that's not all what actually happened. Even though I know my SO and I hadn't agreed to be exclusive at the time, looking back on it, I feel kind of terrible. We ended up falling hard for each other, and I think it'd kinda break his heart if he knew. Nobody else knows, and I doubt that he'll ever find out but...but I'm just kicking myself internally for letting myself screw up the beginning of our otherwise wonderful relationship.
20. Leave A Message After The Beep
I had suspicions about my wife for a while, but the confirmation came in the form of a voicemail from the other guy's wife. The message said she thought I should know my wife was sleeping with her husband. If I had any questions to ask my wife and she wished me well. The truth came out later as I played the voicemail for my wife.
21. Missed Connections
Before dating my girlfriend, I was with a girl for something like eight years. I was certain we were going to marry and be together forever. But for some reason, I just felt like we weren't going to be able to make it work out with our lives going separate ways (with a job, college, and the long distance). I wanted it to, but I ended it because I thought it'd be best for us both.
It worked out well for both of us in that we did succeed more in life. But there's a dark secret hanging over both of us. My ex just got married a few weeks ago to second-place. I call him second-place because that's what he is, and she and I both know it. Prior to her getting married, we professed to each other that we still loved each other after I had a fight with my girlfriend.
My ex said (after getting married) that if I had asked for her back just then, she would have come running. I didn't, because I wanted to have integrity and not break up her relationship nor mine. I just wanted to make things work for everyone. It was the easiest way for all involved. My girlfriend and I’s fight has really put a wedge in our relationship for me, emotionally.
I'm not able to connect with her anywhere near where I was before. I feel like she's only a friend these days. I still feel that way was best, but every day I think about her and every day I know that if we found ourselves single again, we'd be back together. We were perfect for each other...the timing and distance just got in the way.
If my girlfriend knew this, she'd probably stab me in the face.
22. We’ve Got The Receipts
I had suspicions for a long time that my husband was cheating, but every time I accused him, he managed to spin it and make me feel paranoid. Looking back, there were tons of red flags; but the way I found out was through digital intervention. One night, at work, my phone rang and I didn’t answer because it was an unknown number.
Immediately after, my husband called, sounding frantic. He screamed at me, “You’re about to get a phone call, don’t answer it!! It’s all lies!” I was intrigued and I asked him to explain. He continued, “Melissa’s boyfriend thinks we’ve been sleeping together and he’s on a paranoia rampage.” I called back Melissa’s boyfriend and he said three words that turned my life upside-down: "There are pictures."
They weren’t just pictures, either—he also had screenshots and wanted to send them to me. I declined the proof because I had known all along. I believed him, thanked him, and called my husband back. I told him he had the night to pack and better not be home when I got off in the morning. The relief was overwhelming and I never doubted my instincts again.
23. Lead Astray
I cheated on my wife when she wasn't looking at a family potluck. My wife and her sister put their peanut butter cupcakes side by side on the table and her sister makes crazy good cupcakes. My sister-in-law made peanut butter cupcakes with real peanut butter filling AND filled it with Reese's Peanut Butter chips. So good!
Meanwhile, my wife only put a tiny bit of peanut butter topping on hers with no PB filling. I kept making excuses to go back to the dessert table and scarf down my sis in laws cupcakes especially when little kids were near it to make it look like they were eating most of the cupcakes. Didn't even touch my wife's cupcakes.
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24. A Confession From Beyond
When I became a widow, I realized my husband had kept all of our old phones. I wanted to look through them to read our old texts and feel nostalgic. That’s when I found a phone number that had been calling him daily on his commute to and from work. I searched his email from the contact details and confirmed the affair. It’s still unclear if it was a year or three, but it was devastating.
25. Scared Of Myself
My girlfriend, soon-to-be fiancé, has no idea of my extreme mental health struggle in the past, how I used to be medicated and even checked myself into a hospital when I was extremely suicidal from said medications. I’ve since been fine and haven’t had an issue of anxiety or depression in years BUT it still hurts me knowing my brain could be so dark.
When she talks about depression or anxiety she just doesn’t understand because she’s never had to deal with it. So, I’ve kept it to myself to not put my old burden on her. Maybe one day I’ll bring it up.
26. Everything You Say Will Be Used Against You
I showed up at the police station to bail my boyfriend out. I had no idea why he was locked up, but as I was signing bail forms, I overheard the conversation behind me. The bondsman was talking to a woman, and he asked her how she knew my boyfriend. Her response shook me to my core. Without any hesitation, she said they were dating. I slowly turned around, thinking I must have misheard.
I asked her who she was and she recognized me. She said it was nice to meet me, which was surprising as I didn’t know who she was. I found out my boyfriend had an ongoing relationship with another woman, but that's not even the worst part—it turns out that she is 20 years my junior. The night before, she had put a restraining order on him, which he violated the next morning, hence the arrest.
27. She Wants To Be Your Girlfriend
I try not to hide anything from him, but I can never come out and say that I don't like his best friend, who is also a woman. I know that she has feelings for him, but he will never realize it. Everyone can see it but him...and that kills me. He has many other friends that are women, and I've never minded that. It’s a problem.
28. Choose A Bright Future
I knew something was wrong. The way my wife was acting let me know something was off. I asked her directly if she was having an affair and she denied it. She suggested we go to marriage counseling. It made me think I was doing something wrong, and I felt guilted into thinking that counseling could save my marriage. Then, I started catching her in lies during our sessions.
We attended counseling for about a month and a half and it didn’t feel like we were making any progress. Later that week, I had enough and logged into her Facebook. When I looked through her inbox, my heart dropped. I found conversations between her and someone I suspected and there was no longer any denial. I called her crying, but she was annoyed at me and hung up.
I made a promise not to waste another day. I went to the bank, took out my savings, and called my boss to arrange a transfer. By the end of the day, I was packed and moving towards my future. I ended up remarrying a woman with two kids and I couldn't be happier. All I ask for in a relationship is trust and honesty. Don’t settle for anything less.
29. My Fair Lady
I just started dating a sweet, intelligent, hilarious, super-dorky guy. He is Christian and (I think) quite conservative. His family is quite traditional too. He held on to his virginity for a while and is definitely not the kind of guy who sleeps around. He is perfect for me in every way. I don't want to screw this up.
I have no idea how to tell him I worked as a prostitute for a while, and it's not something I can keep from him with a clear conscience if this goes anywhere. Pretty sure it could completely change his view on me.
30. Six Degrees Of Relationships
My boyfriend and I broke up and I started meeting new people. One of the new friends I made asked if I was seeing anyone. I told her I was newly single and mentioned my ex. Her face turned white when I told her his name. She was surprised because she had also recently broken up with someone by that name. We took out pictures and it turned out that we had been dating the same unique twit.
31. Only The Nose Knows
I am heavily addicted to snorting drugs. When we first met, she found out, but at the time she was just a friend of a friend, I didn’t care how she felt about it. After a month or so we bumped into each other, and I asked her out. One of the first things she asked me on our first date was if I was sober or not. I lied and said I was clean.
We've been together for about nine months now and I've been using for three years. The main reason she wants me clean is because she doesn't want to find me in a ditch one day. She even kicked a pill popping friend out of her house when she offered me some. I love her and I don't want to lose her, and I should get clean for my own good but I just can't stop
32. And You Say He’s Just A Friend
I had been dating my girlfriend for eight months. On her birthday, flowers arrived from a guy named Matt. She managed to convince me that he was just a friend. I was meeting her family for the first time that night, and she told me it wouldn't make sense for her to invite me if she was seeing someone else. In my mind, we were on track—we had even exchanged the L-word for the first time a few days prior.
After dinner, I stayed at her house, then left for work in the morning. Later that day, she wasn’t answering my texts. I tried asking what we were doing that weekend, and that’s when the dark truth came out. Matt was her boyfriend of five years, and she was moving to be with him in the house that he had bought. She was leaving that week and didn’t think we should stay friends. That left me with just a few trust issues.
33. But Does She Know That He Knows?
I constantly check up on her texts and social media. I don't swipe her phone and read her stuff, but I check the bill to see who she's texting with, and when. I also found her private blog. When something is bugging her, she'll post sad gifs and quotes there. She doesn't know that I know about it, but I check it all the time, even when it's been months since her last update.
Earlier in our relationship, she was texting frequently with a dude out of state, and I think they got pretty serious. I was being a distant, incommunicable idiot, so I don't really blame her too much. Since working that stuff out, we've been great—but I keep tabs on who she's texting to make sure the dude respects her decision to work things out with me.
She used that blog to post a lot of crap about him, so I think she'd be pretty upset to know that I've seen it all.
34. Sister In Your Corner
My partner was visiting his family across the country when his sister called to tell me that his ex-wife had driven up there and they were back together. I had never met his sister, so I knew it was serious. I asked to speak to him. He promised me his sister was just jealous of his happiness but I couldn’t ignore it and I broke things off.
After a few months passed, he called me and said he wanted to rekindle our romance. I wasn’t overly eager but his sister swooped in again with a bombshell reveal. She called to let me know after our break-up, he had remarried his ex-wife. This time, he didn’t deny it; but he was persistent that we should be together even though he was married. I blocked the number and thank the sister every day.
35. Let’s Talk About Sex
Intercourse has become awkward and crappy, and I feel like she's mostly at fault. It's like she never finishes, and I'm exhausted. We go at it for a while, but she doesn't really communicate. She tries to "organically" (without speaking) change momentum or angle, and a lot of the time it results in a position that's difficult or uncomfortable for me, so when I can't maintain it, she gets disinterested or annoyed.
She doesn't say anything, just keeps going until it's awkward as heck. She also seems to have lost interest in anything else in the bedroom, which is just freaking great because I've hit the age where stamina is a serious problem (until I lose some weight, at least).
36. Dressed For Disaster
I found out because she walked into my work at 3 am in another man’s hoodie and leopard print high heels. Before this, I had my suspicions due to the usual changes in behavior, but I was working a new overnight shift at a printing store and I thought it might be related to the schedule changes. Then my girlfriend walked in that morning looking like she’d been crying.
I was puzzled because I assumed she was at home sleeping. I asked her what was going on and she sobbed that she wrecked her car and needed a drive home. I gave her my keys and figured we would talk about it in the morning. When I get home at 8 am, her purse was on the table, which I accidentally knocked over. My blood boiled when I looked at the contents that fell out onto the floor.
I immediately unlocked her phone and go to her messages. I found a long chat history between her and another man, detailing their affair. It had been going on for a while. I woke her up and kicked her out. Turns out, the night before, she had lost control of her car while with the other guy, totaling it in the process.
37. These Are My Confessions
When I started dating her, I had no idea that she, her parents, and every other person she associates with are die-hard Christians. I didn't think blabbing about my atheism would be a proper way to really get to know her better, and I didn't know that she was so involved with her church (which is one of the one's that openly opposes gay marriage, openly discourages homosexuality, along with a few more cringe-worthy opinions).
Now it's at the point where I don't want to tell her, but at the same time, I don't think that I can shrug off all the religious stuff anymore.
38. Falling Down The Family Tree
I was in a long-term and long-distance relationship with a girl who I truly adored. We saw each other as often as we could and always made the most of our time together. One weekend, she traveled with her mom to visit her grandmother and reconnected with a male cousin. They hadn’t seen each other since they were children.
The next time she came to visit me, she planned a detour on her way home to stay with her grandmother and cousin for a few days. She spoke about her cousin a lot and I was genuinely pleased that they had reconnected. When the weekend ended, I walked her to the train station, kissed her goodbye, and wished her a lovely stay with her grandmother.
A couple of days passed and I didn’t hear anything from her, which was unusual. I called her mobile phone a few times and sent her text messages asking if she was OK, but got no reply. On the fourth day, I called her mom to see if she’d heard from her daughter. She had, so I couldn’t understand why she hadn’t called me. Her mom gave me the grandmother’s number.
I called and her grandmother answered. I asked to speak with my girlfriend who came straight to the phone, unaware that I’d been given the number. When she heard my voice, she went very quiet. Then, she revealed the shocking truth. I eventually got her to admit that she “had feelings” for someone else. I naively questioned it because she’d only spent time with her cousin...Bingo.
39. I Don’t Like My Friends
I know a long-term acquaintance who has cheated on his girlfriend of 5+ years. It's a shame he told me, because now I can't go out to meetups without feeling guilty and disgusted when I see her with him still. He's a piece of crap and doesn't deserve her, but she seemed like the type of person who would forgive his misdeeds after over five years of being with him. It's tearing me up inside.
I don't have an SO, but if I had one that looked and was fun like her, I wouldn't cheat on her...or anyone for that matter, it's not right to do stuff like that just to "see if you still got it" or some screwed up reason like that, there's no excuse for it. Break up with her after that, you jerk. Then again, I'm a bigger jerk for not telling her, but I'm sure she'll find out soon enough from someone else.
40. High School Heartbreak
The absolute worse moment of my life was finding out my wife had a two-year-long affair. I found out because the other man’s wife texted me. We were high school sweethearts and had been married for eighteen years with two kids. When I confronted her, she tried to deny it, but I had too many facts. It was and still is, devastating.
41. High School Drama
We both went to a relatively small high school (120 people in our class), and everybody knew everybody. She had a little crush on me freshman year, but I literally didn't even know she existed. My first memory of ever seeing her was sophomore year in math class and I remember thinking "Who is that girl? Is she new or is she just an upper-classman?"
I feel bad because I think I knew everybody in our freshman class except her. We ended up dating the summer after high school and four years later we're engaged so I don't think she can get too mad at me, but I'll still never tell her this because it might hurt her feelings a little bit.
42. Shocked Into Silence
My boyfriend at the time didn’t think twice about wrapping his arm around one of my friends and then kissing her. She wasn’t my best friend, but we were still pretty close. I had to walk away to process it, and I don’t think they even noticed. The girl came to find me later and I immediately wanted to know what was going on. I thought I already knew the whole story, but when she explained it, I was thrown completely off-guard.
Apparently, everyone in our friend circle knew they were also dating and assumed I also knew. They had been seeing each other almost the same length of time we had been dating. I felt like I had to accept it because no one else thought it was weird. The whole experience gave me a good lesson on boundaries and self-worth.
43. The Antler Mystery
When my wife and I would go to her grandparents’ house, we would always look for antlers, she was and is bent on finding antlers, I've found a couple and her grandpa always found a few, but she had never found one. One Christmas we were over there, and she happened to find a pair of antlers. She was over the moon excited.
She brought them to me, and immediately I knew these were not sheds, I could see the saw marks at the base from where they had been cut off. Her grandpa, being a hunter had cut the antlers off a buck and knowing how bad she wanted to find some antlers had hidden them. I looked at him and he just winked at me.
He's since passed on, but I'll never tell that those were planted!
44. Failure To Launch
I was dating a co-worker for under a month, but he was already saying big sentences like, "I think I'm falling in love with you." I responded with, "I need to go slower." I don’t have a lot of relationship experience and I wasn’t sure what was acceptable timing, but it felt too quick. One night, a group of us went out for dinner.
I noticed he was being super affectionate with another colleague. He was whispering in her ear and touching her arm, barely paying me any attention. I decided to end things a few days later, but he said we could go slower. He insisted we had something special and that I should stick it out. I felt conflicted but I ultimately agreed to continue dating.
Two days later, I walked into an unexpected surprise in the breakroom—I found him with the same colleague from dinner playing tonsil tennis. I think I gasped and that caused them to pry their faces apart. My head-over-heels Romeo then said, "Hey, we are going to go out to dinner, you should join us!" I was too stunned to respond...I just turned around and walked out.
45. Ex Friends
My girl’s friends didn’t show up for her surprise birthday party, because they wanted to punish her for being late to one of their parties, years before. They told me they "didn’t have time to plan." They knew 4-5 MONTHS ahead of schedule, in a group chat that was made to plan the party itself; then they added, "Besides she was late to xxx party getting her nails done."
Karen, please, you let my girlfriend know about the party 2 days beforehand. She only knows whatever they told her. I can't be the one to tell her that her friends are that malicious and petty.
46. Love Doesn’t Live Here
I thought my partner and I were going through a rough patch. She had been acting strange and she felt more like a roommate than significant other. I had seen her hide some messages and my curiosity got the better of me. I guessed her Instagram password and found messages with her ex plus other men. I knew it was done and I needed a plan.
I immediately started looking for a new place to live, but just as I was getting everything in order, I lost my job. I waited a few weeks to break up with her while I figured my life out. I was at peace though because I knew she was a horrible person and I also no longer had to deal with my jerk of a boss.
47. My Mama Don’t Like You And She Likes Everyone
My mom hated my ex (lets just call her Sarah) for how bad she hurt me when we broke up. My mom passed on about a week after seeing Sarah at the mall, and she gave Sarah dirty looks and a cold shoulder. Sarah and I saw each other soon after my mom passed, and she broke down and told me that based on their recent encounter, she was sure my mom hated her.
I lied to her and said, “No, she was just really sick at the end. She didn’t hate you.” Sarah and I are still good friends to this day, and I will never tell her the truth that my mom hated her guts.
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48. Young Love Is A Rollercoaster
My first serious girlfriend after high school worked at an amusement park. I would pick her up after work and we'd hang out because everyone there was pretty cool. We started spending most of our time with another couple and another male employee. One night, it was super late and my girlfriend still hadn't called me to pick her up.
She wasn’t replying to my texts, so I just started driving there thinking we'd all hang out in the park after hours as usual. I decided to swing by for some McDonald’s first and that's when everything changed—I ended up seeing my girlfriend and her coworker splitting a milkshake. It looked like a scene from a romantic movie. I messaged the couple we were friends with and found out that they had been going on dates for quite some time.
Years later, they got married, had a couple of kids, and then got divorced. I haven’t stayed in touch with anyone from the park. My ex did reach out on Facebook a couple of years later to see if I was going to our high school reunion. I ignored the message and skipped the reunion. I couldn’t live in the past and there was no way I was going to repeat high school.
49. Gumshoe
As a kid, I would have major panic attacks and would keep the cause of my fears to myself sometimes for years out of fear my parents would do something to endanger themselves or other people. I always felt depressed and miserable keeping things to myself. As an adult I have done everything I can to be open with my partner as much as possible.
Even when it was painful or scary. It has always worked out. With my biggest regrets and mistakes out of the way the only thing I believe I haven't told here was that a couple times when I was four years old, I nabbed a pack of Hubba Bubba tape from a checkout line in Giant Eagle. The only reason I haven't told her is that I forgot about that myself until this post.
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50. Ashes To Ashes
I was working full time and he was unemployed at the time. We didn't exactly live together, but I slept over most nights of the week. I would do simple things like cook for him when I got home, and I also kept the fridge stocked. One week, I was too busy at work to go over to his house so I didn’t see him until the following Saturday.
We went to the mall, then to the supermarket, and then back to his place. I went on the balcony to smoke a cigarette and noticed in the ashtray were a bunch of pink Sobranie butts. I don't smoke Sobranie, and he doesn’t smoke at all. After I finished, I asked him if someone had visited recently. He was quick to deny having any friends over.
But then I mentioned the cigarette butts and his demeanor changed completely. He eventually confessed to having another woman over. I felt shattered, I couldn't say a word. He said we were equally to blame because I hadn’t seen him all week and he was lonely. I cringe remembering how I forgave him and came to my senses months later. The entire time, no matter what I did, somehow it was also my fault.
51. Guardian Brother
About eight years ago I discovered my wife's sister's reddit account accidentally. It was a variation of a username she'd used for AIM before, but with different numbers and no underscore (the numbers were a significant date to her though). There were too many coincidences in her posts for it not to be her. She was posting on the relationship advice subreddit. When I saw her posts, it broke my heart.
Her (now ex-) husband was abusive. We'd known something was off about him but couldn't really put our finger on it. I created another account that I only accessed from incognito mode to send her encouragement to leave, and to ask her family or friends (but kinda steered her towards us) for help. She didn't want to impose or be a burden on any of them (we'd just had a kid, and I make a bunch of money but we live well within our means so you wouldn't think this based on appearances, so it was an understandable concern).
I slowly, over several weeks and several different posts she made, convinced her that it's possible her family realizes something isn't quite right and would not consider it a burden to help her out. After their divorce I deleted that account. Nobody will ever know that the random internet stranger who was weirdly persistent in encouraging my sister-in-lw to reach out to her family for help and leave her abusive marriage was actually me.
52. Tingle And Multi-Mingle
I met her on a dating site and she lived in a different city. We started texting and calling each other on a daily basis before I went to visit her for a weekend. The trip was great and two weeks later, she came to visit me. Everything felt good and we continued dating for a few months. We even took a vacation together and I felt happy.
Then, I began to notice that the things she told me didn't always add up. I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but I had this growing, subliminal suspicion that something was wrong. One night, I ended up with her phone in my hand when she went to the bathroom. I looked at the screen and my heart stopped—an email popped up from a guy named Christian.
Christian was confirming the flight he had booked for them. I opened it and took a picture with my phone, but didn't confront her immediately and took my time to process. I asked her how many boyfriends she currently had and explained my gut feelings. She admitted to dating other people but told me nothing was as serious as what we had.
Then, I told her I knew about Christian and said he deserved to know about me. Immediately, she got emotional, begging me to leave him out of this and saying through tears that they had plans. I ended things that day and wrote an email to Christian that night. He didn’t know she was seeing other partners either and found out she had been dating both of us at the same time.
53. Check Once, Check Twice
When going to the store one day my significant other asked me last second to take our 3-year-old daughter. I was already in the car, so my partner strapped her in. She was oddly quiet the whole car ride and I accidentally went in the store without her because of it. I remembered after being in the store only about 45 seconds but immediately left the store to get her.
I was so embarrassed someone would notice so I went to a completely different store. Now it scares the crap out of me and even when I KNOW I don’t have one of my kids, I always check behind me before getting out of the car. One of the worst feelings I’ve ever had and even now I get sick to my stomach thinking about it.
54. The Path To Love
My girlfriend left to go camping for a few weeks. A week and a half into her trip, she posted a Snapchat from Florida with another guy hugging her from behind in a hotel room mirror. Apparently, during this camping trip, their paths crossed and after only knowing each other for a couple of days, she moved there. She told me I couldn’t be mad at divine intervention.
55. Doggone It
I didn’t actually find our dog, lost and alone, in a parking lot. I actually paid $70 to a couple smack addicts for her. He didn’t want a dog, and I knew these people wouldn’t take care of her. So, I made up a sob story that she had no one else and I just convinced him she should stay, rather than me finding her another home. He absolutely loves the little maniac now.
56. Eviction Edition
I was eighteen and my girlfriend wanted us to live together. We signed our lease in September and our first month was exciting! But by November, we were having problems. We worked different shifts, and my days off landed when she was working. One time, I woke up on my day off, kissed her goodbye, and grabbed her iPad to settle in and play some games.
As I was playing a game, an iMessage came through. That wasn't uncommon, but it was weird that she was receiving texts at 6 am. I decided not to open the text notifications—I put the iPad down and took a nap instead. When I woke up, I decided to play games on the iPad again, but this time, when I opened the screen, it instantly went to the unread messages. I almost dropped the iPad when I read the conversation.
She was talking with her ex-boyfriend and based on the message history, I could tell they’d been talking for a while. I waited for her to get home so we could talk about it, but she denied it at first and tried to spin it on me. Then, I brought up what they were talking about that morning and she realized she had been caught.
Things moved pretty quickly after that. A couple of days later, we were broken up and she moved out. After she left, I went down to the rental office and took my name off the lease. It cost me a couple of hundred bucks but I was getting the best revenge. She never told the building she was leaving, so the apartment stayed registered to her.
She tried to apply for another apartment and found out her credit was bad due to an eviction. She tried to take me to court but lost that battle too and got stuck paying unpaid rent, late fees, and legal costs. I’ve never regretted it for a second. You can break my heart but I’ll break your credit score if you do!
57. Wedding Blues
I really didn't like our wedding. He loved our wedding and often brags about how close to perfect it was, better than he ever thought, etc. He cherishes that memory, but I had a pretty terrible time. Part of it was because I had to put so much of it together, my friends and I, and he just showed up and enjoyed the party.
I ran every decision by him, of course, like what to eat or what kind of officiant to get, but when it came to ordering the food and finding and hiring the officiant, it was all me. I couldn't really enjoy it the same way because I felt so responsible for everything going OK and people enjoying it. But the biggest part of the issue is that I just remember it as a lonely experience.
It was very small as we wanted it, with just each of us having our four closest friends. But all my friends were locals I see all the time, and they were mostly preoccupied with entertaining their kids and otherwise enjoying themselves at just another event I hosted. He had his friends come in from all over the country, even one from Europe, and it was such a big happy reunion for him.
As I remember it, almost nobody talked to me at the wedding. Although I am sure there was more than I remember, I know nobody gave any toasts. I don't recall anyone even saying something as simple and acknowledging as "congratulations" or "what a lovely ceremony." And I definitely remember being bored out of my mind.
At one point the officiant (who stuck around for part of the reception), whom we barely knew, looked over at me alone and broke away from his conversations to come over to me just to make some idle conversation and keep me company. I also remember standing there looking at my phone, checking some sports scores, just to keep myself entertained and look like I had something to do. Looking back, it was absolutely horrible.
I would have loved it if we could have had a wedding that was an order of magnitude bigger so that I could have my friends and relatives who I haven't seen in ages and only get to see when we have excuses for events like that. I bragged about our $200 food bill for the whole event, having a friend take all the pictures, and my $50 dress, but I hate the thought now of how cheap and throw away our wedding kind of was.
What really drove it home for me was that a couple who came to our wedding got married about a year later with a very similar affair (though bigger). She even wore a dress similar to mine, and she said our wedding was an inspiration for her. That made me feel better about our wedding. I knew they were having another wedding later in the year where she lived, for her friends and relatives, and I assumed that would be a smaller event just to include those folks.
Later, I saw on Facebook that it was a real-deal beautiful wedding, with dancing, attendants, professional photographs, her looking utterly stunning in a gorgeous full-length gown, and dozens of amazing pictures. So, our wedding was the template for their "forget about it" wedding. She didn't even post any pictures of the smaller wedding at all. That's the part that really hurt.
I know people love small, inexpensive weddings here, and the idea is that anything else cheapens the love the event is meant to celebrate. But maybe, for some people, something can be too simple, too small, and maybe even too "intimate." I wanted to celebrate with my extended family and friends; not every single bloody one of them, but maybe 20 of them. I reduced the whole thing so much to its essence that it didn't feel like much of anything at all.
I don't want to spoil the wonderful memory for my husband, particularly since I labored so hard to make exactly that for him.
58. Swipe Right For Love
My partner and I at the time were long-distance and he was living two states away. We had a solid relationship for two years and made trips to go see each other as often as we could. One day, my former roommate called me to check in. I could tell by her tone I knew something was wrong. What she told me made my blood boil. She had found my partner’s Tinder account.
My trust and heart were shattered. I didn’t see it coming since at the beginning of the relationship, he told me cheating was an absolute deal-breaker. We had discussed if the relationship should be open and he said no. Ironically, he said if he ever found out I made a Tinder profile, he would leave. I followed his rules and broke up with him for good.
59. Just A Dent
I made a dent in our garage door one time while trying to park a little too close to it. It also left a huge scratch on the door and my car’s bumper. My husband never found out. He notices everything but for some reason he never noticed the bump on the garage door. We sold that house recently and I thought for sure he’d see it and I’d have to fess up but nope.
It’s been five years since that incident, and I think I’ll take that story with me to the grave.
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60. Don’t Be In The Closet
Three years ago, my girlfriend and I went to a party thrown by a mutual friend. I went to get us drinks and when I came back, I couldn’t find her. After walking around the house for a few minutes, I heard her voice coming from the closet. I opened the door and my jaw dropped—I saw her shirtless and making out with her ex. I just closed the door and left the party.
61. Hall Pass
My wife often tries to get me to tell her which female celebrities I have a "thing" for. She's being good-natured and fun when she asks. But she is already an insecure person. Even though my wife is gorgeous, I know that if she knew who my celebrity crush is, she would not be able to resist comparing herself to them.
If we ever watched a show or movie with the person in it, I know she would tease me for only watching it because of them, etc. I have told her that I appreciate that she says it's ok, and I don't mind knowing who her celebrity crushes are, but to protect her heart, I refuse to tell her mine. I don't ever want my wife thinking that there is someone else—especially not someone in particular—who I wish she was like instead of the beautiful person she already is.
62. Flush Away The Future
My girlfriend had a studio apartment and lived alone. One day, when I got to her place, I went to the bathroom and saw used protection in the trash. We had stopped using protection, so she confessed easily. We still stayed together and she promised me she would change. A year later, she found out I got invited to this exclusive party.
She kept urging me to take her, convincing me it would be fun for both of us—little did I know that she had ulterior motives. I didn’t realize it, but her ex was also invited, and that's why she made a big deal about me bringing her. I was invited for work and had to organize a plus one so it was a huge hassle. I regret it to this day because I ended up finding her with her ex in the toilets.
63. Double Life
I had a YouTube channel that I don't really update anymore. It was growing pretty well but then I saw the end of the line for advertising revenue—by the last year I had record growth in terms of views and subscribers, but my bottom line was still the same. It ended up being too much work to keep up instead of, well, work.
It still was enough to keep us afloat while I was struggling to start my other business. We even had some excess to the point where YouTube revenue paid for family vacations. I still stream on Twitch from time to time, but more just for speedrunning, etc. She doesn't know about that either. It's just a hobby now and I make no revenue from it.
She knows I play games obviously, but she doesn't know to what extent I have shared my gameplay. I just don't feel like going into it. I don't have any friends that I'm still in touch with who play games so it's the closest I can get to sharing experiences with other gamers.
64. Using Miles For Heartbreak
We were doing long-distance while I lived abroad. He visited me with a plane ticket I purchased. Less than a month after, an old coworker of mine told me she saw him at a bar kissing and holding hands with another girl. She confronted them, saying she was his best friend and that he was already in a relationship. His best friend was dating my brother-in-law’s friend, so he eventually got caught.
65. Heartbeat Going Crazy
My crazy heart issues that I saw the doctor for in high school ended up being horrific anxiety. In my defense I had no idea anxiety could do things to your body or brain at the time, I just thought my being nervous was because my heart was screwed up, not vice versa. I stopped hyperventilating to the point of passing out around age 17.
Around 19 found out the reasons why, but I've never specifically gone back and said, "Oh hey remember those palpitations I used to have? They were my dumb brain." If we ever have kids, I'll probably have to tell him in the course of medical history etc.
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66. Turn Left And Break-up
She was driving and handed me her phone so I could navigate the directions. While I was holding her phone, she got a message from another guy. I had already told her their friendship made me uncomfortable and she said I had nothing to worry about. But then I read the message and I broke down. He wanted to know what time to pick her up for their date. I calmly asked her how I should respond.
67. Secret Super Hero
Before we started dating, we were coworkers as the same retail shop, we had become super good friends, and both had some interest in each other but never got the ball rolling on anything exclusive. Her father passed from a heart attack randomly in the middle of the night. She took the 3 paid days off our job gave us but she obviously needed more.
The new manager at the time was scrambling to cover the shifts but being a new guy no one came to help him out. I cared so much about my co-worker and loved the friendship we had. I ended up taking 90% of her shifts so she didn’t have to worry about that part of her life. Now we’re a couple months into dating and I still haven’t mentioned it to her. Not that it’s a secret or anything, it’s never come up in a conversation and I don’t tend to talk about her father all to much.
68. The Dog Days Of Divorce
My best friend accidentally let it slip in a Facebook message because she thought I already knew. I was relieved because I had suspicions but never any proof. When I confronted my wife, she tried to say the guy aggressively took advantage of her. I didn’t buy that lie and she finally confessed. But here's the kicker—despite everything, we still stayed together for another seven years.
Even though we tried to make it work, our relationship never recovered. It was turmoil because she’s a raging narcissist who can’t handle making mistakes. I finally left her in March of 2017, and within two months she was shacked up with someone else, raising their kid with two new adopted dogs to replace the ones we had together.
69. Urine Trouble
My ex-girlfriend had a few too many shots at a party and passed out on the couch. When I went to check her, I noticed she peed all over the couch. To avoid embarrassment, I filled up a bucket with water and threw it over her to disguise it as a prank (I'm that kind of boyfriend). To this day, she still has no idea.
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70. Ciao, Bella
My girlfriend at the time didn't have a phone, so she would contact me using her friends' devices. One day, I was trying to get a hold of her, so I texted some of their numbers. After a few minutes, I received a shocking reply, and it hit me like a runaway train: "You need to stop. She broke up with you and is seeing someone else. Leave her alone." This was far from true. We had not broken up...In fact, we had even scheduled her dream vacation to Italy for her birthday.
71. Cat-tastrophe
Several years ago one of our outside barn cats went missing, my wife's favorite. She was pretty upset. I had actually found the cat that morning. I discovered, to my horror, what had actually happened to it. The facts and circumstances leading to his demise would upset her tremendously. She still thinks to this day the cat was taken by a rogue coyote or something
In reality, she had incidentally backed over it in the darkness of morning when leaving for work. I've never been able to bring myself to tell her and never will. I felt awful for her. I even feel awful telling the internet about it now and it's been years!
72. A Rose By Any Other Name
I was in a new relationship and everything seemed to be going great. She invited me to meet her friends and I was chatting with everyone. One of the guys and I were getting along, and at some point, I introduced myself as so-and-so’s boyfriend. He excitedly said: “Oh, you must be Jake!” For the record, my name is Anthony.
73. You’ll Never Find It Now!
If my mom wants to hide literally anything from my dad, no matter what it is, she just puts it somewhere where he would have to bend over to see it. Doesn't matter if it's something like a package of Oreos, if my dad has to bend over to find it, he's never going to find it. I've tested it with my own snacks when I was still living with them to confirm it works. He'd be mad if he knew how many snacks we'd hidden from him simply because he doesn't bend over low enough to see it in the cabinet.
74. Suspicious Activity
My wife was an operations manager for a big box store and I had suspicions about her friendship with another employee. She was working late and they were texting. I checked her phone and the language was flirty but not incriminating. Her work friend was younger than her and he got accepted to a college in Syracuse.
I was relieved knowing that he would soon be gone and out of the picture, but boy was I wrong. When he moved, she became a recluse and started complaining about going to work. I thought it was just the job making her sad, but really, it was the fact that her coworker was now living in Syracuse. A few months went by and she planned a trip.
She said she needed to recharge. I was excited and naive thinking she would come back as the woman I fell in love with. A day or two into her trip, I got a call from the bank asking to confirm suspicious charges. She had driven straight to Syracuse and the charges were for a hotel room.
75. Storyteller
My ex-boyfriend used to read me chapters from whatever book he was reading at the time. It was usually me that initiated it, mostly because it felt so warm and intimate, but also because I knew he had dyslexia and dysgraphia as a child so it would give him a little boost of confidence. But this also meant he was actually really terrible at reading stories.
I’m talking pure monotone; it made any book extremely boring and I would cuddle up next to him so I could see it and read it in my head as he read. But I liked to think the good outweighed the bad, and I never told him!
76. A Day Of Loss
My mom was in the hospital and I needed someone to talk to. I texted my girlfriend but only got a few one-word responses. About an hour later, she sent me a selfie of herself and asked what I thought about her new haircut. It wasn't like her to send these shallow responses, especially considering my mom’s health, so that made me suspicious.
The following weekend, I went to her house so that we could work on her yard together. I helped her plant a few things and fixed a few issues on the outside of her house. I spent most of the day doing yard work. The next day, we had planned to go bike riding a couple of towns over. I asked if she wanted to spend the night at my house.
She said she just wanted to sleep in her bed, so I went home. At 4:30 that morning, I got a call from the hospital and saw my mom for the last time. My girlfriend called me an hour later saying her car had been vandalized. She had been at her friend's house. Apparently, when she was leaving, her car was spray painted and the tires were slashed.
I was a little out of it, but I knew things didn't add up. I copied the picture she sent the week before to my computer and checked the metadata in the picture. Her phone tags her pictures with GPS coordinates. She was at Tom's house. She had been going there regularly over the past few weeks. Several of her selfies were taken in her car in his driveway.
I ended the relationship. She was dumbfounded. All she cared about was fixing her car and she didn't even offer support with my loss. I ended up giving a eulogy to a bunch of empty chairs. No one bothered to show up to my mom's funeral. She sent a text months after to meet so she could apologize but that was over four years ago now.
77. Unique And Ubiquitous
My boyfriend got me a beautiful necklace for our one-year anniversary! It says love in a hundred languages when you shine a light through it, he was so excited to give it to me and so pleased he'd gotten me such a good, romantic present...the only problem was that my best friend had been given an identical necklace from her boyfriend on her birthday a week prior.
He had no way of knowing and was so happy to get me such a unique gift that my friend and I just co-ordinate, so we never wear them at the same time.
78. A Souvenir For Life
I was in Denver for a month for work. We had a date night planned for when I got home, but she called me crying that night as I was on my way back. The entire conversation made my heart sink. She confessed that she'd been with someone else. As it turns out, that "someone" was her ex-husband. But that's not all—I dodged a major bullet because a few months later, she called with positive STD results, which I avoided too.
79. Can’t Handle The Tooth
He wanted to find a shark tooth so badly after I found one at the beach. So, I went and bought a small bottle of shark teeth from the gift shop, spread them out all over a strip of beach we were hanging at and marveled at every shark tooth he brought me. I can never tell him the truth.
80. Missing Memory
My ex was involved in a motorcycle accident and he broke his back. I was handling all of his paperwork and insurance claims while he was a bit out of it. I needed some information from his phone and found out he was talking to another girl when I was gone for a week. He feigned confusion, but I think reality hit when I walked out the door.
81. Started From The Bottom
She’s not my girlfriend now, but she didn’t know the extent or details of my childhood struggles. She knew I grew up in the projects up until age 10, but I think because I never wore it like a badge of honor or carried myself in the stereotypical way of someone who would come from that environment, many people think I was unaffected.
I never bothered to share those details because I never wanted to make a sob story out of a situation that I was blessed to get out of and that many people are still currently in. But that living situation has taken a toll on me in various ways.
82. Reverse Psychology
She was texting someone a lot when she was at my place one day. She told me she had made a new friend at a party over the past weekend. It didn’t seem like a friendship, but I didn’t push the conversation. The next day, she told me we should break up, and even though I was surprised, I didn’t argue. Then, a week later she tried to get back together.
She sent me a text message saying she missed me, but I told her I'd only take her back if she could honestly confirm my suspicions. She admitted that his name was Andrew and that things ultimately didn't work out between them. Reading that gave me closure, and I was ready to get my sweet revenge on her. So I texted back, "I guess we're both liars now" and blocked her phone number.
83. Level 10 Liar
I thoroughly HATE DnD. It bores me to tears. Yet I've orchestrated an elaborate lie that gives the illusion that I love it as much as he does, and once a month I have to spend 5 hours sitting through a session, bored to tears. I do this simply because it's one of the few hobbies in his life he gets to enjoy and I want him to have someone to play it with.
It's been going on for five years now, and I have no way out. It's OK though, the amount of joy I see he gets from playing it gives me comparable joy. So, I don't mind that much.
84. The Proof Is In The Blog
I found out through her blog. I don’t know if she didn’t remember that I had signed up to support her or if she just didn’t care. The blog post gave extensive details about how she finally found “real love in the world.” She posted it while on a supposed business trip, which ended up actually being a week-long vacation with the other guy. I shipped her things to the hotel.
85. Haunted
I haven’t told my wife about my frequent suicidal ideation. I’m a really introverted person, and talking about things doesn't really help me. I live a blessed life for the most part, but in the last couple years I've become really jaded. I'm not suffering, more that I just don't see the point of continuing; everything is just grey. I took out a really good private life insurance policy a couple years ago, and it covers suicide.
My policies suicide clause and contestability provision is up, so they'll be taken care of for life. I took the last year as a sabbatical and I’ve spent it entirely with my wife and kids, just making memories and doing the things that I enjoy.
86. Three Strikes
My first girlfriend cheated on me and accidentally mentioned his name during a conversation. I didn’t recognize it, so I asked who he was. After poking and prodding, she confessed her unfaithfulness but didn’t feel any guilt over her actions. She maintained this weird double standard where it was fine for her to do what she did, but I shouldn't try anything similar or it would be over.
My next relationship never felt right. We mutually agreed to split because we could tell it wasn't going very well. A couple of days later, she posted pictures from a date she was on with another guy who I actually recognized. She acted weird towards the end of our relationship, but I have no proof that she ever did anything with that guy.
My third girlfriend is a plot twist because she was cheating on me, but with people who I absolutely did NOT expect. She confessed that she had been with multiple girls. I found out because she was low key bragging to her friends. She implied I was homophobic if I wasn't okay with her "fooling around" with her friends. It took me the better part of a year to see the flaws with that logic and had a friend help me end it.
87. Caught One-Handed
I was born with only one hand. I have rheumatoid arthritis in the one hand I have, and I know it’s spreading. I have osteoarthritis in my lower back and scoliosis to the point where I am most likely going to need spine surgery. I’m only 31 years old. I can’t do this for another 50+ years. I am in such bad pain now and it’s only going to get worse.
I have thought of suicide, but I can’t do that to my husband and kids. I don’t want my husband to turn into a caregiver. I can’t envision not being able to take care of myself.
88. Fire And Ice
My first love was in my early twenties. We were volatile, constantly on and off, and it was very toxic and unhealthy. At one point, we lived together with my family, which gave them front-row seats to our disaster. I could blame it on young love but I think this was worse. We decided to take a break for a couple of days.
After being apart, she missed me and came to my school. We agreed to work on our relationship, but that night on the phone, I could tell she was dancing around something. I knew something was wrong and asked her directly what she was hiding. That's when she dropped the bomb on me—she was leaving me for someone else. I was devastated until she started cheating on him with me.
89. I’m Too Handsy For Your Shirt
My girlfriend’s mom has a love/hate relationship with black people. She was against our relationship when we first got together, and all her driving points kept resorting to my skin color. I'm a good dude so I've always dismissed comments like that. However, over time she made a lot of comments about me being handsome and then one night during a party, things got out of control.
My girlfriend’s whole family, including her dad who had just got out of prison, were present when Momma tripped and fell forward on me in her kitchen. She then proceeded to grab my crotch out of nowhere. My girlfriend’s prick of a stepdad was in the other room, so this was mad awkward. I had to play it off as just the big black dude catching the small white woman.
Her mom definitely got a handful of my nuts while my girlfriend’s whole family were wasted. I don't talk about it, but my girlfriend has said on many occasions she feels her mom would smash me if I weren't smashing her daughter. Can’t believe that she drunkenly grabbed my crotch after pretending to not be into black men most of her life
90. A Stalker Confession
My wife told me a guy from her work was stalking her, so I told him I knew what he was doing and that he needed to stay away from her or else. But here's the crazy part—he had no idea my wife had accused him of stalking her. He assumed I was talking about the affair they were having. It freaked him out and he immediately went home to his wife and confessed.
My wife was just trying to get me to get rid of him for her and hadn’t told her jilted lover the alibi she was using. It had been happening for a while behind both of our marriages. After he confessed to his wife, she called me in tears and asked how I know about the situation. It was a confusing conversation until I realized the truth of the situation.
91. My Fault
This isn't necessarily relationship-ending, but it's something that I think about almost on a daily basis. I met my wife when we were both sophomores in college. The night we met I knew I had very strong feelings for her. She was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen, and I was pretty intimidated by her. We met at a bar that night and went back to her house with mutual friends (her roommate and my buddy).
I didn't try to pursue her strongly that night because I didn't want to push her away if I struck out. She lived in a house with six girls and this guy calls asking for directions (I thought to meet one of her roommates). I gave the guy directions to the house before I left with my buddy for the night. I didn't realize it, but I'd made a horrible mistake. Turns out, the guy was a creep from the bar and that had been trying to hook up with my now wife.
She thought I was going to do what most guys would've done—give him wrong/bad directions so he wouldn't show up. He ends up coming into the house and finding my wife in bed asleep. She woke up to him forcing himself on her. Because of me. And that's the story of how I met my wife. It haunts me almost every day.
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92. Our Little Secret
I didn’t realize I was logged in to her Facebook. She had used my computer and we had a lot of mutual friends. At one point, I got a message from one of her friends asking how it went last night. When I opened the conversation, my jaw dropped. Her friend was excited to find out if she stayed behind and if he finally saw my exes’ underwear. It took a minute for everything to sink in.
I went for a run and waited for her to wake up. We broke up in an amicable conversation and I didn’t tell her what I had found out. As far as I know, she still has no idea what prompted me to end it. We had been together for three years and we were both miserable. I wasn’t angry; I was just surprised that it came down to a Facebook message for us to pull the plug.
93. Mother Lover
I never told my wife that her mother once tried to sleep with me. It was early in our marriage when we were living with her to save money for our own place. Her marriage of 28 years had ended badly, and she was emotionally fragile. She was very tipsy and was absolutely horrified at what she had done when she sobered up.
I promised not to ever tell my wife and I never did, even when she and I were fighting near the end of our marriage. Some things are too cruel to do, even when you're trying to hurt each other.
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94. I’m Just A Fun Girl
We got engaged the summer after I graduated college. We had been dating for five years and I had to move home for work for six months. I noticed she started acting withdrawn. My attempts to talk to her on the phone while I was away were described as smothering. She wasn’t acting like herself so I began to investigate.
I started checking the phone bill for numbers she was texting and looking through her emails. I didn’t find anything and I thought I was paranoid, but then in January, I found an incredibly telling piece of evidence. It was an email that I found in her outbox with no trace of prior conversation. She wrote to another man that she’s in a relationship but she’s looking for someone to help her be a fun girl.
95. You, Me, And Dupree
I'm certain I'm the worst person posting on this thread. I basically have two boyfriends who both know who the other person is because they have both been exes before, but neither of them knows that I still talk to the other. See, one of them lives far away, but we made an agreement when I was broken up from my current legitimate boyfriend that we would get married at 31 or 32 years of age.
I got back together with my current boyfriend and never told him about that. I never broke it off with the previous guy because 32 is still five years off and I was head-over-heels in love with him in college. Thing is, that's not the worst part. I'm boy crazy. There is one (different) ex in particular that I would drop everyone for, but he's in no state to be in a relationship, but I still sleep with him every now and again.
I tell some guys I'm in an open relationship but I’m not really. Some are fine with that, and some aren't, but I'll take all the ones who don't care. I don't sleep around outside of my relationship often, but I have a serious lack of control when it comes to that one ex of mine. The boyfriend doesn't know I ever see him and I try to keep it infrequent.
Sometimes I tell myself I can wean off him. I don't know that I can. Worse, I don't know that I want to do so. I think I'm trying to make up for lost time. I never felt good enough to have any of the attractive guys when I was young, but now I know I can. I am horrible.
96. You’ve Got Mail
I had this intuition four years ago to check my exes’ email. There was nothing strange about his behavior and we weren’t going through a rough patch; it was just a strong urge to log in. We had each other’s passwords and when I opened his inbox, there was an email from his ex. He had responded to it that morning telling her how much he missed what they had.
97. Two Extra
I really hate his kids. He has two from a previous relationship and we have one together. It is to the point where I wish he did not have full custody so we can raise our son alone. His daughter is 17 and his son is 14. His daughter is the nastiest person ever. She hardly showers or changes clothes. She steals my underwear and ruins them.
You know it is bad when you get them from the laundry and the crotch is black and stiff (after they have been through the wash). My boyfriend, his mother, and I have tried talking to her about it but nothing changes. We have to yell at her to keep her bedroom door closed because the stank is so bad. His son is just annoying. He is not mature for his age.
He still watches WWE (which is not a huge issue) but watches it while playing with action figures. The way he talks is like talking to a 5-year-old. I have tried to build a relationship with them but nothing has worked. I can only hope that as soon as they turn 18 they move out.
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98. By My Calculations
We were in college and she told me she was pregnant. We weren’t sure what to do besides schedule a doctor’s appointment. I was all-in for her, ready to step up to the plate for her and our child...until the doctor told us a key piece of information that turned everything upside-down: the estimated date of conception. I realized that I was out of town during those dates, so I questioned her about it. She confessed to sleeping with my roommate while I was out of town.
99. Girl Code
I was dating this girl for almost a year and it was serious. I was friends with her mom and most of her friends but she was a very jealous and possessive person. One night, I was at her house and she got into the shower. I was on the floor playing with her iPad when I noticed a book under her bed. It looked like a sketchbook at first, so I grabbed it.
I opened it thinking I would see beautiful sketches, but it was her diary. The words on the pages gave me shivers. She wrote about how she had been cheating on me with multiple men. It was shocking because she was so jealous and possessive. I calmly closed it, put it back under the bed, and left. I called one of her friends with who I had become tight with and asked her to explain.
She agreed to meet me later, meanwhile, my girlfriend got out of the shower and asked why I left. I told her I read her diary and that it was over between us. She tried to be angry about me for reading the diary but she was more upset that she was caught. I met up with her friend for coffee and she told me everything. My girlfriend and three of her friends had made a pact.
They were all in on it together and they would travel, party, and create a lot of opportunities. They’d rent hotel rooms together, cover for each other, and made detailed notes so no one found out. Her friend wanted to come clean as she was over it. She didn’t feel good about lying or hurting people, and the guilt was unbearable.
100. Alexa, Restart My Heart
We had been married for a few years and it was great, but once we had a baby, he panicked. All of a sudden he didn’t know what he wanted. Eventually, he asked me for space. We still spoke but he wasn’t involved with our baby or fixing our marriage. Ten months later, I added a new Amazon Echo to our family Prime account and I noticed a device I didn’t recognize.
I figured out that the device was set up at the place where he was currently living. Since it was linked to our account, I was able to go through voice requests and play them back. One recording sent chills up my spine. It was my husband saying, “Alexa, play beautiful love songs” while in the background I can hear intimate noises. Turns out, he was having an affair with a colleague.
They’d been having an affair since at least the birth of our daughter, but lots of clues say it started before. It was easier to end it considering how long he had already been gone. When I originally shared this on social media, it got picked up by a tabloid newspaper with the headline ‘Amazon Slimeball’ which is now what he is saved as in my contacts forever.
101. You Think You've Had a Long Flight?
Just got on a flight in London headed to Vegas. Sitting next to my GF and she wants to show me something she has planned for the trip so gets out her phone. It opens to the Messages and shows a chat with a guy (I know him) saying how much she is gonna miss him and how she doesn't wanna go away with me anyway. The doors close on the plane and that was a really fun 10-11hrs...
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