October 9, 2020 | Eul Basa

People Share Something They Need To Vent About Without Judgement 


When we’re dealing with something heavy in our lives, there’s no better feeling than venting our grievances. However, not everyone is willing to accept our struggles without judging us for our feelings. These people needed to vent about a problem in their life, but haven’t until now for fear of being misunderstood or just flat-out judged.

#1 On Top of Everything

My eight-year-old daughter who has ADHD. I love her so much but I just don’t get a break as a single mom. It’s just constant, every single day, on top of having to keep her entertained. I’m just glad it’s school holidays so I don’t have to teach her as well as work from home and study full-time. I also have ADHD, so I understand the compulsion to ask and the boredom, but it’s already so hard for me to work and study. Then on top of that, constantly entertain her.

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#2 Actually Relieved

I am happy that I didn’t see any of my family for Easter. I don't have to choose which family I visit this year. No one is guilt-tripping me on why I chose to go to my husband's family this time, or the other way round. I don't listen to my mother who complains about the amount of work and then on how much of it goes to waste, and she never learns. I didn't participate in shopping craze, which is especially difficult this year, and absolutely unnecessary because I already have loads of food at home. Holidays were cancelled for me and it is a dream come true. But, I have to pretend that I'm sad and disappointed because if I didn't, I would break some hearts.

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#3 Obsession With Vengeance

I hate my husband's ex-wife with a burning passion. I keep it to myself because most people will think it's a jealousy thing. It has nothing to do with jealousy. I’m confident that I ended up in a far better situation than her. I hate her because she uses their daughter to hurt my husband. She doesn’t consider how badly she’s hurting her kid by using her as a pawn. Her obsession with vengeance far outweighs keeping her daughter's best interest at heart. It sickens me that any mother would think of convincing their child that being hurt is acceptable.

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#4 Severe Decline

Please let me complain. I’m not trying to suggest that the sick don't matter. I’m complaining because my life has been derailed and I’m not able to take care of myself in the way I normally do. It’s resulting in a severe decline in my mental health. Don't tell me it's not the same — I know it's not the same and I'm not trying to say it is. I’m allowed to feel sorry for myself without downplaying anyone else's suffering.

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#5 Quietly Disarmed

We have this kid over my back fence who’s constantly whining about everything and making his little sister cry. This morning I was out in my yard lining up a shot with a dog ball thrower and a rotten egg. I had him in my sights and had just mumbled, "Yeah, I can get him from here..." when I spotted my other neighbour out in his backyard, smiling at me. I quietly disarmed and returned inside, cursing Barry and his bad timing.

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#6 They Don’t Understand

I want to tell someone in my family about my anorexia. But, I genuinely feel like they're the kind of people that don't understand eating disorders. Don't get me wrong, I don't need them to know everything, I just need empathy and to know that somebody cares. But if I told them what I feel like, they'll tell me, "Just eat, it's not that hard!"

They’ll also say things like, "You know I had anorexia before. I felt self-conscious and didn't have my appetite for like two days,” "It's your fault for letting this happen!" or "But you eat, how can you have an eating disorder?" I know that some people don't know what to say or how to react when someone tells them about their eating disorder. I don't need a full-on therapy session, I just want to know that they care about me.

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#7 Rather be Lonely

I haven't dated anyone in five years because of my ex. He's basically a sociopath. The things he said and did to me left lots of emotional damage. I'm afraid I'm undatable. I've resigned to myself that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm lonely, but I think I'm okay with that. I'd rather be lonely than hurt all over again.

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#8 Constantly Prove Myself

I'm the one white person in my friendship group, which isn't a big deal. But it means most new people I meet through my friendship group also aren't white, which again isn't a big deal. The only problem with that is I hear, "I hated you before I got to know you because I thought you were just this boring white kid.” I hear it so often.

So many of my friends’ friends are just full-on rude before they even know me. For example, they’ll ignore me in conversations or make snarky comments. I don't really feel like I can complain because a lot of them have the "you can't be racist towards white people" mindset, but it's so draining having to constantly prove myself to them.

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#9 Personal Demons

Just because you have mental health issues or personal "demons," you don’t have the right to treat other people like trash. I recently left a five-year emotionally-toxic relationship and because of my upbringing with a bi-polar mom, I let someone else with mental health issues emotionally hurt me. She had social anxiety, depression, and before we met attempted to take her life after a toxic relationship.

She made me feel bad for being me and at the same time made me responsible for her mental health. She looked at my phone and made me feel guilty for having friends (especially female friends). I was at university and basically became a hermit stuck in my room with her, comforting her after some new "disaster" that was normally self-inflicted on her part.

It really messed with my head to such a degree that I still feel a sense of guilt when seeing friends. I've moved back home and while it's better than before, it's still tough. Dealing with my mom's bipolar issues again has made me realize why I let it happen. Frankly, I don't have the patience or strength to deal with it anymore. I feel like screaming sometimes. My mom has already said and done a number of horrible things.

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#10 Adult Conversations

I'm fed up with my eight-year-old. She's eight, I'm not. I don't find eight-year-old things funny. I'm not interested in eight-year-old things. But she's a sharer, and I have to hear about them 24/7. If it's not that, it's having to explain what I'm doing at any given moment. It's becoming excruciating. I just want to have adult conversations again. I just want to be able to do the dishes without having to listen to a broken description of a physical joke from a kids’ TV show that probably wouldn't even have been funny if I saw it in person (which I probably have).

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#11 I Hate This Dryer

This dryer, man. I don't usually do home repairs, but I ordered parts and looked up schematics online so I could fix it myself. I spent a day drinking and replacing parts and it looked like it was working. Then, the washer had issues. So, I spent the next day drinking and taking apart the washer, only for it to suddenly decide to work normally. I put that back together and was mildly bragging about fixing appliances myself for the first time.

I then ran my first non-empty load of clothes through the washer and it was fine. I tried the dryer next and... it was tumbling, but the clothes didn’t seem to be drying. So, I set it to magic-sensor-dry instead of timed dry and it ran overnight. When I woke up in the morning, it was still tumbling trying to dry. The piece of garbage isn't heating now. I'm angry that after I was talking up fixing something myself for the first time, it's still not working. I’m probably going to call a repairman in the morning to fix it. But in the meantime… I hate this dryer.

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#12 Admit You Need Help

The whole "disabled people can do just as much as able-bodied people" stuff. I'm disabled. No we can't. We can be just as happy as able-bodied people and our life can be just as fulfilled, but we can't do the same stuff. We will always need extra help, be it wheelchairs or extra time off work. We will always need more time to do or learn stuff and have times where we just physically can't get out of bed.

I hate — absolutely hate — when people give me trouble for this opinion. Like, shut up. If you could do the same as able-bodied people, you wouldn't be on benefits. I need help to survive and saying that makes people think benefits and such are useless when they’re absolutely not. So, just admit you need help. It makes your life so much better.

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#13 Tough Decision

My wife and I chose to terminate a pregnancy when it was discovered the baby would’ve been born with a most likely survivable genetic defect. What upset me about the situation was the fact we couldn’t tell anyone except the genetic counselor and our doctor. It angered me that we had to hide it for fear of judgement or reprisal.

I absolutely respect some parents who choose to keep their children. You all have a lot of patience. However, we would not have had financial means to provide a “normal” life for the child, much less patience (we already have one kid). We couldn’t have lived with the idea that after we passed away, they would have to be on their own, under the supervision of the state or our firstborn son. We just didn’t think it was fair to bring the child into this world. I hate that there’s so much judgement regarding decisions like these. It’s as if people think we’re monsters yet none of those people would’ve had to deal with the issue.

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#14 Actually Weren’t

My autistic son is now in his 20s and due to other disabilities, will likely always live with us. When I would really struggle with feeling burdened, I would make a mental list of all of his old habits that used to drive me crazy. Then I would think about how they felt like they would never end and contrast that in how rarely I see them as he has grown. He has picked up new habits, Lord knows, but those things that felt merciless and constant actually weren't.

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#15 So Tired

I’ve been trying to lose weight for the past two years. I’m always on a rollercoaster when it comes to weight loss. Since being back home with my parents, I’ve gained back all my weight and lost my muscle. I don’t know why I keep doing this to myself. It’s not really just about being skinny, but being healthy again.

At my highest, I weighed 294 pounds and now I’m back around it. In the past year, my lowest was 255 pounds. Losing weight is hard when other issues take up my mental capacity (my mom puts a lot of strain on me). Sometimes I think about liposuction but I know I would never be able to afford it nor would I be able to live knowing I took the easy route. I don’t know anymore. I’m just so tired of being fat. I’m tired of looking at myself in the mirror and seeing dissatisfaction and disappointment.

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#16 Everyone Else Around

I feel happy when everyone else around me is sad. I was extremely sad for most of my school life but suddenly I found myself accepting who I am, but I can’t say the same for my friends. One was gay but he couldn’t tell his mom because she wouldn’t accept him. One was under pressure because her parents made her work so she would be one of the best. The rest were just depressed or had serious anxiety. I feel horrible because I just want to give them my happiness so they don’t feel bad and adults don’t do anything about it.

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#17 An Unscathed Life

I hate that no one protected me from those who hurt me. Even my own family and friends harassed and discouraged me. I still get extremely angry when companies protect toxic people. I used to warn people about companies they should avoid because of what happened but they either don't listen and then complain about being hurt or they don't understand the purpose of it being anonymous and it gets shared with the company. I also resent seeing those people succeed. They profit off the suffering of others and cause so much hurt. Why do they get to live life unscathed with no consequences?

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#18 Beyond Infuriating

Healthcare should be rationed. I'm an ER doctor. Do you have any idea how many demented 96-year-old grandmas and grandpas I've intubated and sent up to the ICU on a ventilator when they come in septic after a fall or a stroke? I lost count years ago. These people spend a lot of time on a ventilator in the ICU and 95% of them pass away there.

The amount of resources spent on these patients is beyond absurd. But because the family wants you to "do everything," you keep them up in the unit doing what I feel amounts to medical torture. It’s all simply because people can't get over the fact that their baseline severely ill family member will eventually pass away.

This was before everything happening now. Now, I’m playing ventilator musical chairs because that same demented 94-year-old who was screaming that she wouldn’t let a black nurse touch her eventually got intubated and is now taking up a ventilator that I had planned to use on the really nice 45-year-old father of two. We still have enough vents in my town that I can transfer the 45-year-old out to somewhere that has one, but the fact that I even have to do so so that I can keep racist granny alive another five days is beyond infuriating.

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#19 Nice to Feel Good

My best friend of two years broke off our friendship, which I could understand if it wasn’t for the circumstances. She would get frustrated and scream at me, not respect me, and throw temper tantrums as a full-grown adult. She left me stranded in a parking lot and sped away one evening. The worst was when we were sleeping over at her boyfriend’s house. She and I were in the same bed and her boyfriend started to touch me.

I had that happen to me a few years before and him doing that triggered a bad PTSD reaction. A day later, she told me to get my stuff from her place, that she left outside, and to never contact her again. She didn’t have enough respect to even talk to me. This was back in October of 2019 and in March of this year she wished me a happy birthday, but my birthday isn’t in March.

I texted and told her she needed to apologize to me for acting like that and she blocked me. It drives me crazy that she did that because I’m positive she texted me on purpose. I do feel better about demanding an apology and her blocking me, though. I got the last word, which might be a bad thing to feel good about. But after months of feeling terrible after the whole issue, it’s nice to feel good again.

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#20 Meaningless Relationship

I just want to feel like I connect with a single person out there. One of my oldest and best friends has changed. If I’m being honest, he’s become someone I don't really know or even care for. I feel like relationships are so meaningless. There's no point in them, people will just find out ways to disappoint you.

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#21 I Feel Stuck

Even though I have a good life, I'm not happy at all. I have no will to live in this world. Even some of my friends don't understand what I’m going through. The effort it takes to get out of bed every morning, the effort it takes to not breakdown every five minutes and start crying, etc. They just can't comprehend how much pain I've been in for the last year and a half. Even half of my family doesn't count mental illness as an illness. I feel stuck. I've been eager to tell anyone what I’ve been going through but I just can't bring myself to.

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#22 Nowhere to Turn

My relationship with my parents imploded a few months ago. I haven't told anyone about that because all my friends have okay or great relationships with their parents. The only friend I have at the moment with difficult parents is going to tons of personal stuff now with her kids and husband, so I can't burden her with my problems.

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#23 Being Alive

I don't feel any will to live, nor to pass away actually. I think I’ve been depressed for at least a couple of years but that this depression isn't valid because it never became full-on depression, just feeling empty. I feel like I would be judged because I’m not "really" depressed, but the thing is, something is clearly wrong. I haven't felt genuine happiness in years and have absolutely zero confidence in anything. Also, I have no hope for anything in the future and being alive feels uncomfortable.

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#24 Gathering the Courage

I’m such a weak person. I’m like 80% positive that my boyfriend is a narcissist but I can’t leave him. I hate him so much and every day I try to think of ways of leaving him. But at the same time, I know how difficult it will be to do any of it. I’m stupidly always waiting for a “better time” to leave him. I hate myself for it! He makes me feel miserable every day.

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#25 Working From Home

I live in an apartment complex and everyone's kids are home. I'm working from home, but I'm constantly having to deal with hearing kids running around, screaming, babies crying, etc. Plus, they’re from all directions of my living space. I just keep telling myself that these are tough times and we all need to be as patient with each other as possible but man, I'm starting to tear my hair out.

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#26 Simply Irritated

Being in shape is a condition of my employment. I have access to four separate gyms with all the equipment I could need, but they’re all closed. I mentioned this to a couple of people and they said, “My personal problems aren’t as bad as others.” Yeah I know! I wasn’t turning it into a competition! I’m simply irritated I can’t work out the way I want to.

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#27 Tired of It

How frustrating it is being a female in a male-dominated career field. The second I mention it, I become "one of those women." By acknowledging the issue, I risk putting myself in a position where adverse reactions are difficult to prove, and my life is made more difficult than it already is. Everyone is always shocked that there are so few women at or above my pay grade, but they wouldn't be if they stuck around and saw what it was like. Is it too hard to comprehend that yes, some women play the poor female card but that sexism still exists? I've dealt with way more than my fair share amount of nonsense, and I'm pretty tired of it.

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#28 Broken By This

My mom’s in the ICU and has been since Tuesday. She’s in a medically induced coma and can’t breathe on her own yet. I told my brothers that when she wakes up, I’m asking for custody of my little sister (who’s 13). She doesn’t deserve to be put last. I feel like they’re judging me for not being 100% focused on my mom.

But, I’ve been destroyed by this and there’s not much I can do from 1000 miles away. I can’t call the hospital constantly because we named one person to do that and he’s not very communicative. I’ve told him that we should put together a list of questions because the hospital has been so vague. I’m angry because of the situation, but I’m so broken by all of this.

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#29 Pick a Lane

I  still don't understand how a lot of guys juggle between defending harassment by women against their own gender because "Oh, I'd love to have that happen to me.” They then proceed to rant about the double standards that are created as a result. I know not all guys think this. But in my experience talking to guys about this, oftentimes the same guys who say, “I'd love to have a woman randomly flash me" complain that harassment against men isn't taken seriously.

You have to pick one or the other. Either you're okay with it and you support the double standard, or you're not okay with it. I've had conversations with guys who were actually consistent. This one guy told me that there should absolutely be a double standard and that guys who complain about female-perpetuated harassment, especially if the woman is attractive, are pathetic or gay.

Another guy said that when women harass men, it's just as disgusting as the opposite. He also said that women who do these things should be punished like men. Both of these people were consistent and actually made some sense. While I disagreed with the first guy, I at least had some respect for him for not being a hypocrite.

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#30 Out of Touch

Celebrities need to shut their mouths. I’m sick of hearing their anecdotes about “bad” jobs they had in the past. You do realize people have those jobs now, right? How do you think they feel when they hear you say that their job is bad? And what right do they have to talk on certain social issues? They’re rich! They have no idea how the world really works. It irks me that there are 1000 different award shows for what they do. Like they need any more of a pat on the back. They make millions. If they love what they do so much, which they claim to, maybe they should take a pay cut. Nope. They need to keep paying for their mansion.

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#31 Asking for Change

My oldest son and his autism. I love him more than life itself but he's infuriating and hard work. Every day is a broken record of him running through things he wants to do, my wife and I explaining they're closed and him not understanding. He then thinks I'm being mean by not taking him to the things he likes.

He has very little opportunity to blow off steam and self-regulate as he doesn't want to go out unless it's for something he wants to do. He wakes up at 5:30 a.m., which wakes up my youngest son and the day begins. He never pauses for breath and it's a constant stream of demands all day long, plus you're juggling this with a rightly temperamental one-year-old. Plus, I have a wife in a constant battle with depression. People usually say something like, "Oh, kids are hard but, you know, you wouldn't change them." I would. I love him, but if I could suddenly make him not autistic anymore, I would in a heartbeat.

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#32 101 Things

My husband and I like seeing family, but Easter has turned into another Christmas and it's driving us mad. There are decisions about who to see and what day the insane amount of treats the kids end up with. Plus, the fact there's so much pressure on it to be “perfect.” This Easter has been so good, we still did an egg hunt and the children got eggs but there was no pressure to travel anywhere or stay over or the other 101 things.

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#33 Starting Weight

I have gained about 15 pounds in the few weeks I was home. I can't stick to a diet when my grandmother cooks at home (and food is available at all times) and I can't go back to school (two hours away) where I can watch myself better. There’s no end in sight and I hate this. I’m terrified that I'll go back to my starting weight from four years ago.

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#34 Knuckles to My Sonic

I’m having trouble with my girlfriend’s son. It's very difficult to explain to a four-year-old that, as an adult man, I'm not all that interested in spending my whole day either playing Roblox with him or playing with toy monster trucks. Neither am I all that keen on being Knuckles when he puts his Sonic outfit on. And asking me to do those things every minute, then crying if I say I don't want to, isn't going to convince me that I do. That being said, there is a certain pride to be found in the fact that he wants to be around me, he wants to play with me.

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#35 Controversial Things

I say this mostly with entertainment in mind, but I’m very frustrated about how you can't say that you don't want to see or hear about a particular group without being labeled as hateful towards that group. I'm bombarded with people soapboxing about their pet causes and political opinions all day. Sometimes I just want everyone to shut up about controversial things.

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#36 Bad Jokes

The increasing number of people who cannot take criticism for things that they do. "It was just a joke. Stop being sensitive." I'm not being sensitive, the joke was dumb and not funny. Try again. I can take jokes about being black very well, but hearing the same joke about black people and apples gets old. Tell me a new joke. You got a trans joke? Tell it, but if it sucks, I'm going to tell you.

Comedians and people who think they’re funny have a big problem with this. Like with that one Dave Chappelle’s special. A lot of his jokes were ones I've heard from him when he was active in the ‘90s. I expected new content and didn't get it. I have a right to say it sucked. In fact, people who constantly tell low-hanging jokes, in my opinion, are really sensitive themselves. Maybe my humor is just too high-brow or whatever but a bad joke is a bad joke.

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#37 When in Practice

Every time I even think of any heartfelt emotions, it scares the heck out of me. Never mind actually showing any. I could never impose this on anyone to avoid being a burden to them. In theory, I do want to have fun and laugh with friends and be lovey-dovey with a partner, but something just breaks me inside when in practice.

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#38 Sitting Around

I’m very frustrated that my girlfriend doesn’t have a job.  She graduated from college recently with a STEM degree, but it’s in a pretty specific field of interest. However, since graduation, she hasn’t taken the job search seriously at all. She’s even gone as far as to not show up for interviews or follow up after interviews. This is really annoying as we share a place in a not-so-cheap area. So, now all expenses have fallen to me, which is really only half of my frustration.

The other half is that she is taking this all as a vacation rather than as looking at it as an opportunity. She wants to spend all day sitting in the yard reading a book rather than doing anything to make herself a better candidate for hire. While I’m working, she constantly asks “When are you going to be done?”

Since she’s financially unable to contribute and I’m busy with work, I hoped she would pick up some slack around the house. But anytime I ask her to clean up or start dinner, she acts like I am being sexist for acting like it’s her job to do those things and that I should have to split it with her. In reality, she’s just sitting on the couch doing nothing and I’m working. I don’t know it’s a frustrating time to be stuck in a small house together with limited activities.

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#39 Another Angry Man

I’m a feminist and I’m all for equality, but when I hear comments like, “men are trash,” “men ain’t nothing,” etc. it destroys my self-esteem just for being male. It also further alienates me from women. If a man said those things about women, he’d get absolutely dog piled. I’d even argue women like that contribute to toxic masculinity by making us suppress our feelings even more. Then if I express how these statements make me feel, I would be labeled as sensitive or another angry man. I’m already lonely and have a difficult time talking to women, but this just makes me feel worse about myself.

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#40 Your Time Will Come

I really hate people and friends who, when I say that I've never dated anyone, say something dumb. It’s always along the lines of, "Oh, I'm so sorry. Your time surely will come." I mean, you can't imagine how I'd love to find someone who loves me. You also can't imagine how hard I'm trying to be a better person just for that and every time I fall back on my butt.

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#41 Denied One Thing

I'm sick of being left out because of my inability to have children. It sucks that I can’t. I know I should be thankful for what I have and not dwell on what I don’t, but still. If you were denied the one thing you dreamt of heaving for your whole adult life, wouldn’t you be salty? To add insult to injury, all of my friends and relatives do all this mommy stuff that I cant be part of.

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#42 Bitcoin Scam

Last week my dad, who's in his late 60s, apparently spent $10,000 to buy Bitcoin from some guy who phoned and claimed to work at a Bitcoin brokerage firm. He didn't tell my mom until a few days later and was sure he was going to make $50k in profit. My mom was furious, they had a big argument, and he promised he would never do it again. The “broker” phoned back today and my dad spent three hours on the phone with him. He ended up buying another $10,000 worth of Bitcoin. It's money my parents really don't have — it came out of their mortgage.

My mom called me in tears this afternoon about it, saying she didn't know what to do. I called my dad and tried to reason with him, but he was sure he would get rich from it. I told him that even if Bitcoin went back to an all-time high, at most he would make $5k. So he agreed to try to cancel the second purchase.

I decided to look up the company and it's a big scam. I called my dad and told him and he doesn't know what to do. So, I called his bank and it's too late to reverse the second transaction. The best they can do is try to get the funds back if the receiving bank will cooperate. But now it seems hopeless and I'm scared for my parents, their relationship, and my dad's mental health.

What hurts the most is my sister and I had been saving money to try to give them $10k as an anniversary present to help pay down the mortgage. It makes it so hard to justify saving money for them when dad just gets these stupid ideas and impulsively spends $20k from some guy on the phone, without even checking that it's real. I just don't know what to do. I'm furious with him but also need to help them.

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#43 The Kids Are Alright

I'm not estranged from my family but I live 1,200 miles from them, except for my kids. For a long time, I thought it was sad my kids didn't go to the big holiday parties I went to as a kid. Then I remembered how I was anxious every single time we drove to one of those parties. And how being at these parties with 50+ people made me want to run away and never come back. I think my kids will be just fine

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#44 Where Were You?

One of my best friends has depression. I’m constantly checking on her, asking her if she's okay, offering to help, listening to her talk about her problems, etc. I’ve been doing this since middle school and I still am. Last fall, I had a horrible bout of anxiety. I was having panic attacks twice a day and I lost 15 pounds from not eating. I would say that's the closest I've ever been to ending my life.

I tried to talk to her about it, figuring she would understand what I was going through, and that she would be someone I could lean on during one of the worst times of my life. All she said was, "lol same.” I understand depression can cloud your interactions with other people but it just made me so angry that I had spent years being there for her and the one time I needed her, she wasn't there for me.

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#45 No Fond Memories

I’ve been reading a book called My Dark Vanessa , which is about a relationship between a 15-year-old and her 42-year-old teacher, and how long it takes for her to come to terms with the fact that it was wrong. Now, I'm really angry about men who think it’s normal to date women half their age, or much younger. It’s not. I know everyone's situation is different but there are a lot of power dynamics in relationships like these, especially when one partner is naive and it is very easy to coerce or manipulate them. I, personally, have been through situations like this in life and several years later, I have no fond memories.

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#46 All-Time Low

I wish I could get my brain to stop being on hyper mode all the time. I have ADHD and need a certain amount of physical and intellectual stimulation daily. The physical part is easy because I go running early in the morning. Intellectually, I am so bored. I feel like I am at an all-time low and I don't know how to combat this.

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#47 Cosmic Karma

Personally, I’m angry at the fact that my ex-boyfriend’s in a happy relationship and I’m not. Why does he get to enjoy himself when he’s nothing more than a liar who goes behind people’s backs? I know it’s petty and yes, I actually do like being single. But come on, I want him to experience that cosmic karma already!

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#48 Do It Again

How annoyed I am when my friends try and show me their self-harm. It's weird for my friends to go out of their way to text me every day, going into explicit detail about it. Then when I say I feel bad for them, or ask how I can help them feel better, they say sorry and do it again. It makes me mad because I know a lot of it is for attention, but I don't want to call it out. I'm worried it'll just end in more injuries and I'd rather comfort people then be responsible for someone taking their lives.

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#49 Constant Caretaker

I need a break from being a constant caretaker from my fiance. He needs medical help and we were having trouble finding him any. I'm sick of him getting poor treatment for being a veteran. We’re only 32 and it already feels like our future is nonexistent. Now let's add a crazy world and financial ruin to all this.

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#50 Shadow of My Sister

My parents favor my younger sister over me. She has a great talent for performing arts, especially singing. Recently, she joined a big competition around the country and has advanced to the semi-finals. I’m happy for her but now I feel like my parents forget about me because I’m not really that special. Whenever I do something I’m very proud of — such as my academic scores and sports —they just nod and carry on with their lives.

On the other hand, when it comes to my sister even doing the bare minimum, she gets praised and showered with compliments. My parents only really focus on her and her needs. With my mental health going into a dark place, they’re doing nothing to support me and it hurts a lot. I can’t remember the last time I had a proper conversation with my parents. It seems like no matter what I do, I’m always in the shadow of my sister.

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