A Great Feeling Evaporates
Your dad thought he was buying peace of mind with a guaranteed income, no stock market risk, and protection for retirement. But instead, he’s now finding out that annuities can be filled with hidden fees, confusing terms, and exorbitant withdrawal penalties. Here’s how you can help him navigate this financial nightmare and avoid losing even more money.

Understand What Type Of Annuity He Bought
Annuities come in several different forms: fixed, variable, and indexed. Each of these types has different fee structures and access rules. Ask for the original contract and prospectus to pinpoint exactly what type of annuity he owns. Without knowing the annuity type, you won’t know the surrender period, fee schedule, or available options for fixing the situation.
Identify The Surrender Period
Most annuities lock in the investor for a period of five to ten years. Early withdrawals trigger steep surrender charges, which can start at 7%–10% of the account value. Find out when your dad purchased the policy; if he’s already several years in, those penalties may soon start to go down.
Review The Fine Print For Hidden Fees
Many retirees don’t fully grasp that annuities charge layers of fees: mortality and expense (M&E) costs, administrative charges, rider fees, and investment subaccount expenses. These can total 3%–4% a year. Over time, those fees are a silent but deadly drain on growth, especially if the annuity is already underperforming or tied to low-yield investments.
Verify Whether There’s A Free Withdrawal Clause
Some contracts let you withdraw up to 10% of the balance each year without penalty. This can be a partial lifeline for your dad so he can cover expenses while avoiding the full surrender charges.
Contact The Insurance Company Directly
Skip the salesperson and put a call through to the insurer’s customer service line listed on the contract. Ask for a policy summary showing the surrender charges, cash value, and any available withdrawal options.
Request A Free-Look Review (If Recently Purchased)
If your dad bought the annuity very recently, he may still be within the free-look period (usually 10–30 days depending on state law). Obviously that’s a narrow window, but he can cancel the contract for a full refund with no penalties.
Explore A 1035 Exchange
If the fees are crushing, one option may be a 1035 tax-free exchange, which lets your dad transfer funds from one annuity to another with better terms. This will avoid triggering taxes or penalties. Keep in mind that he can only do this with guidance from a fiduciary financial advisor, not a salesperson looking to gain a commission.
Check For Hardship Or Terminal Illness Exemptions
Some annuity contracts will waive the surrender penalties in special cases. These include serious illness, long-term care needs, or financial hardship. If your dad’s health or finances qualify, he could be able to withdraw funds without the usual penalties that go along with it.
Consult A Fee-Only Fiduciary Advisor
Stay away from anyone making a commission on selling another annuity. Look for a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) or fiduciary advisor who charges an hourly or flat fee. They can model different options for you, compare surrender penalties versus staying invested, and work up a plan without conflicts of interest.
Run The Numbers: Is It Worth Breaking The Contract?
Sometimes the numbers justify taking the hit. If the annuity’s returns are really poor or the fees exceed growth, you may be better off paying a one-time penalty and reinvesting the remainder.
Evaluate Future Income Needs
Ask if your dad still needs the annuity for guaranteed income later in life, or does he need liquidity now? If his current income needs are already covered by Social Security or pensions, flexibility might be more important.
Watch For Mis-Selling And Senior Exploitation
If a salesperson hard-sold this annuity knowing your dad wouldn’t understand it or didn’t really even necessarily need it, that could qualify as financial exploitation of a senior. This is a bigger problem in this day and age than most people think. If you think that’s going on, contact your state insurance commissioner to file a complaint.
Keep All Communication In Writing
Insurance firms move slowly, and promises made over the phone have a funny habit of being forgotten. Keep a file of all emails, letters, and policy updates. Written records make it easier to contest misinformation or misleading statements later. Having everything in writing makes it easier to escalate to regulators if the company isn’t cooperating.
Re-Assess Taxes Before You Make Changes
Surrendering an annuity can create a taxable event, especially if it’s held in a non-qualified account. Gains are taxed just like ordinary income, not capital gains. Work with a CPA to figure out the exact tax hit before making withdrawals or exchanges.
Ask If The Annuity Has A Death Benefit
If your dad passes away while the annuity is still active, any remaining balance could pass to beneficiaries, but sometimes the company keeps part of it. Confirm who’s listed as the beneficiary and whether the contract carries a guaranteed death benefit.
If It’s A Variable Annuity, Review Investment Choices
A lot of variable annuities let you reallocate funds between subaccounts. If the current ones aren’t performing up to snuff, reallocating to lower-risk or lower-fee options could help you stabilize returns without surrendering the entire contract.
Look Into Partial Surrenders Over Several Years
Instead of cashing out at once, plan gradual withdrawals. Spreading the withdrawals across several years lowers surrender charges and tax brackets.
Involve The Whole Family In The Discussion
Elderly parents often feel stupid about money mistakes. That’s why you should approach the issue gently. Make sure they know that you’re trying to protect their financial security, not criticizing their judgment.
Don’t Let This Happen Again
Use this negative experience as a teaching moment. Before your dad or anyone else in the family buys another annuity, make sure you insist on a fiduciary review first.
The Bottom Line
Your dad isn’t the first retiree to get trapped in a confusing annuity, and he won’t be the last. What matters is that you act early, get professional advice, and refuse to let pride or fear stop you or him from asking questions.
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